Showing posts with label Durban Temple Mission. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Durban Temple Mission. Show all posts

Sunday, March 1, 2020

Sunday Afternoon - What Challenges Me?


Always a question for me… Do I need to do or be more? 
Or - Do I need to do or be less?

Sometimes it the first, and at other times the second.

I’ve felt somewhat dazed for some of this last week.

I have done intense hours and hours of editing of my Durban Temple Construction History.

It is finished at last and submitted for printing – 296 pages.
So, I’ve slowed down a little to let all the parts of me catch up
with each other and become integrated and balanced again. 
Sometimes the Physical races ahead, or the Intellectual,
Emotional or Spiritual, or the Social.
Sometimes one part of me lags behind… then the other parts slow down to integrate.
So, sometimes it takes noticing, wisdom, time and patience to get “all together!”

I’m thinking a lot about…
As I grow older, what might I need to be prepared for?
What will I do if I can’t drive anymore?
On my early morning trip to the Temple day before yesterday I decided –
I don’t want to drive to the Temple in the darkening early mornings.
It requires what feels like too much concentration.
Daylight driving needs another type of concentration –
but perhaps this is the better choice for me, for now.
I’ll figure out another session that will suit me for these darker early morning months.
Perhaps Glenn will be more able to join me at another session time too.

One Day at a Time!
Thank goodness we only have to actually live in day-tight compartments.
(And hopefully, many of them include eating a meal of delicious watermelon!)


What challenges you?

I love you all! 
May we each grow as we want to –
in grace and truth –
and all other ways we are able to.

Mom / Judy / Gran Judy etc.




I like this… I became aware of it many years ago…

Just For Today
I will choose…

Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once.  I can do something for twelve hours.  It would appal me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today I will try to be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said,  that most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my desires.    I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.

Just for today I will try to take care of my mind.  I will strengthen my mind. I will study.   I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires a little effort, thought and concentration.

Just for today I will try exercise my soul in three ways:  I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count.
I will do at least two things I don't want to do just for exercise.
I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

Just for today I will try to be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit.
I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.

Just for today I will try to have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, or bits of time that make up half an hour,  I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
I will think of GOD, myself, and of my neighbour.  I shall relax and seek some more of the truth.

Just for today I will try to stop saying “If I had time…”  I will never ‘find time’.   If I want it, I must make it.

Just for today I will try to be unafraid. I will not be afraid to enjoy what is good and beautiful.   
I will believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

Just for today I will try to accept myself and live to the best of my ability.

Just for today I choose to believe I can live just this one day.

Alcoholics Anonymous



God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can…
And the Wisdom to know the difference

Reinhold Niebuhr


Sunday, December 1, 2019

Sunday Afternoon - Home Again!


We had a peaceful and delicious breakfast on Thursday at The Little Church in Van Reenen… we were on our way home…


 And yes, we are home again…
We had thunder and lightning and rain Thursday night when we arrived, and after Ethan, Daena, Cabryn and Roisin (Nadia’s sister) helped carry all the stuff in…  
We are home!
I walk around bare-foot on our carpets… We are home!
I bathed in my own bath… We are home!
The church bells rang this morning…  We are home!
The peaches and apricots are ripe… We are home!
The birds are chirping and chirping outside… We are home!

And we have room!

Douglas has built upstairs in the property behind us and moved some of his stuff there. 


This week we will move more there to clear the front room off the entrance hall and prepare it for Les and Sally who arrive next weekend.
Richard, their youngest, is marrying and being sealed in the Temple on Saturday.
I am looking forward to that precious time with Les and Sally.
I enjoy having my brothers to stay, when they come to Gauteng for whatever reason.
Actually, I just enjoy visitors – and I prefer them shortish-term, whenever possible.

The other front room, Doug’s office, will be next on the list to clear to next door behind, then we’ll be all on our own in our part of the house.
And we’ll make that front room and the adjoining ‘piano room’ into what we need them to be for this stage of our lives.
(The piano room is already transformed – we did that before we left - it has a new built-in-cupboard which is very useful.)
(I’ll share pictures when all the new stuff is closer to ‘finished’ than it is right now.)

I to Glenn "If one of us is alone in the future we might well end up in one room."
We have much to share now with those less fortunate than we are.
I will take a load of our many clothes to the charity shop tomorrow.
Other items will be sure to follow.

We’ve been packing in La Lucia for weeks now.
A bit at a time…
By the time Thursday came, we were ready – just about.
I realized when I was in Pietermaritzburg that I’d left a few items in the fridge…
Ah well, the movers will have 6 eggs, delicious bean soup (which I meant to leave for those who clean and tend the estate) and probably a few other this’s and that’s…

I loved being there for the three years and five months that our home was there.
I loved being closer to John, Brenda, Vi, Craig, Roxane, Madi and Kirsty.
I mastered more technology… what a blessing!
I met and got to know many people I never would have otherwise.
We lived where we would never have otherwise.
We went places and did things we never would have otherwise.
I’m glad we went.

As I said to one of my colleagues who commented that I really enjoyed being there, 
“I enjoy my life… wherever I am.  Each day that passes will never come again.  I want as few regrets as possible when it is my time to die.”

I’m glad to be home…
I love my home…
We’ve spent many years making it very comfortable, functional, and pleasing to me/us.
Interesting – I don’t even miss the other side of the house.
This part is very suitable.

I’ll spend ten early minutes a day in the garden, and ten minutes a day on a ‘hotspot.’
FlyLady terminology… Finally Love Yourself Lady.
FlyLady has been very useful in ‘liberating’ me to a greater degree.
Do you know about it?

I look forward to going to the Botanical Gardens again.
One of my places of refuge/refreshing/being.

It’s good to be home!
It’s good to be alive!  See, hear, smell, taste, touch, think, move, be, LIVE!

We have a heat wave this weekend – it is hot.
We have the fan on, and the doors and windows wide open.
Most tolerable, most pleasant, when that is possible.

Northerners… Enjoy your deepening December.
Somehow Christmas in Winter is “the way it should be…”
“We” in the South have been indoctrinated by the Northern countries – 
through many years!

Somehow Christmas Dinner (hot) is just not right here…
And Christmas cake/pudding here needs to be ice-cream…
To each their own. We’ll have a swim on Christmas day to cool down.
That’s appropriate here.

This little bird, big actually, was by our front gate when I drove in from shopping yesterday…
Black Friday weekend… What was I thinking?!
I was glad to see this at-ease bird!
Do any of you know what it is?


Monday, November 18, 2019

Sunday Afternoon - A Week of Miracles


I sat down on the spare bed to write and lay down to sleep!  And I did – all afternoon!
This is so unusual for me...
I must have been tired!
So here it is, late afternoon.  It’s raining gently outside.  Warm rain.

We had a week of rain forecast this last week. Two miracle clear days…
Tuesday and Wednesday were sunny days – enabling us to prepare the site for
Presiding Bishop Caussé’s inspection visit on Thursday.

I had my bunch of car keys in my jeans pocket on Tuesday. 
I lost them – somewhere on the site…
My heart sunk.
A few weeks ago a rucksack was stolen out of a car boot on the site.
Passports and other valuables were stolen.
I had not much hope of finding my car keys.
Nevertheless, I told one of the foremen.
And prepared to find Glenn and come home to get my spare car keys and another key to the flat.
Glenn was away from the site, so I paused in alerting him.
A couple of hours later my car keys were safely returned to me.
One of the worker I know – Chicken is his name – had found them.
I was very grateful for another miracle.

I visited Gateway shopping mall for work on Wednesday –
Gateway is an enormous mall in Umhlanga.
I go there as seldom as possible…  It’s just too big, and noisy, for me.
When I got home I realized I had lost my memory stick containing back-ups 
of the site reports, somewhere.
I searched the car, the site office, home… and figured out I must have lost it somewhere
on my visit to Gateway.
Well – I had no hope of finding it again.
I was reconciled to getting another memory stick and redoing what I had done.

On Thursday 8:01am - from my niece-in-law Roxane Holmes –

She attached the conversation she had been part of late Wednesday evening:

Wednesday 22:54 – to Roxane

“Hi Roxane.  This is Nhla. Trynna get hold of Judy.  Can you help?”

“Hi.  Which Judy?”

“Judy Bray…”

(His/her name and phone number attached…)

Its regarding the usb that I found.  Thank you.”

“Send me yr details and I will ask her to contact you in the morning.”

Thursday 8:01am (read by me at about 9:45 am) - from Roxane

“Hi Judy… got a message from someone I don’t know looking to get hold of you…
Says u lost a memory stick?”

“Yes!  A red and black one with a meerkat decorative tag.
Oh, I so hope for it to come back to me…”

“The person’s number is on the message.  I hope you get it back.
Incredible that the person messaged me to find you.”

“Whew! yes! I will contact him/her.”

“Let me know how it goes.”

Thursday 10:07am - Me to Nhla - him/her –

“Good morning,

I’m very grateful you found my memory stick.
I was becoming reconciled to it not coming back.
I’m greatly relieved to know I might have it again.
I’m also glad that you found something that identified
someone I know and made the effort to make contact with me.

I’m very occupied for the next few hours with meetings I need to be at on the site.
Is it possible to meet you later this afternoon or tomorrow please to collect my USB?

Grateful regards,
Judy Bray

PS I will see your reply…I don’t know when today…”

Thursday 1:39pm – From Nhla

“I live at…
I work at… Monday to Friday …
I take a taxi…
Since you’re currently occupied, I’ll hear from you when you get to me.
Thank you.”
  
Thursday 6:53pm – from Roxane

“Hi, did you get your memory stick back?”

Thursday 7:00pm  - to Roxane

“Been busy with top management all day.
Sent a message.
Got a reply.
Will arrange to get tomorrow.”

“That’s awesome.  I was so worried it was a scam.”

“I will fetch today from where he/she works – hospital in …”

“Incredible.  I’m so happy it’s coming back to you.”

Thursday 7:10pm – to Nhla

“A moment to pause after a very busy day today!
Phew!
Can I come to your work and fetch it tomorrow please?
If so, where shall I find you?”

7:49pm – from Nhla

“Same here.  Time to chill indeed!
You’ll find me in the hospital pharmacy.
Just ask for Nhla.”

Friday 10:27am – to Nhla

“I will come to the pharmacy around midday, twelve?”

10:53 – from Nhla

“That’s fine.”

I got there at midday not knowing whether I was meeting a man or a woman.

I asked the young cashier for Nhla.
I thought "Maybe you are Nhla...?"
She looked at me blankly.

I showed my phone to her with the name and surname.
Her face cleared.
She pointed to a young man across the pharmacy serving someone.
I waited until the two seated people he was helping arose and left.

I introduced myself and we had a truly lovely conversation.

He had thought when he found the USB that this was a fortunate find!
A memory stick with lots of music and movies perhaps…

When he saw the content, he realized this must be very important to whoever lost it.
So he set about trying to figure out who might have lost it.
He says it took him three hours to figure something out.

He found the reports and photos interesting.
He thought the building was unique.
He saw a few surnames recurring in the reports.
He looked them up on social media.

He came across my facebook profile.
He knew it was me because I registered as site missionary on the Durban Temple construction.
But no public information.
He looked at who might know me, have tagged me.
Roxane Holmes tagged me sometime in one of her posts.
He looked at her profile and whom she was connected with.
There he found I was familially connected with her.
So he contacted her…

I hugged him.
I asked him if I could take a photo of him.
He said yes.



I gave him the meerkat tag as a token of this special occasion.
He was thrilled.
I gave him some money “to do something special with.”
“You don’t need to…” he said.
“I know I don’t need to… I want to.” I said.

I was tearful as I walked to my car shaking my head.
I said a humble and grateful Thank You prayer.

"Signs follow them that believe..."  I believe...

Friday 12:53pm – to Roxane

“Hi Roxane, I just fetched my memory stick from Nhla, young, newly graduated pharmacist.
He found my memory stick outside Gateway where I dropped it when getting my car keys out.
He realized it was very important when he looked at the contents of the Temple construction on it.
He found nothing on social media about me, but you had tagged me in one of your posts.  Amazing!
I believed in miracles before… I’m reassured of miracles this week.
He didn’t want to alarm you so he gave lots of details about himself.
Really personable young man.
I’m really grateful to God and both of you!
I’m so happy to have it back!”

“Ah this is wonderful news.  I’m so happy for you.”

Monday morning – very early…  The saga continued.

The miracles didn’t end there…

I sent a message to my editor on Friday around midday
when I usually send my weekly report for editing –

“Hi Helen, I haven’t even started my report yet.
I don’t know when I will get to it to you.”

On quiet Friday evening after supper –
the only evening this week with no visitors for supper!
 It’s been a very busy week preparing for Thursday!
(I thought “The least I can do is feed one or two of those who are working late to prepare…”)
(We usually have visitors only one evening during the week…)

Glenn was busy with his half-monthly technical report.
I thought I might watch a movie (using earphones) as I sometimes do, when Glenn is working.
I found myself in Microsoft Word… and a few inspired hours later my report was largely complete.

After a good night’s sleep I was wide awake when it starts getting light at around four thirty am.
I quietly opened the lounge curtains and said my early morning prayer.
I came to the spare room, silently closed the door, put on the bedside light and
did my morning New Testament and Book of Mormon scripture study.

John, Brenda and Vi were due to come to us this weekend.
I had earlier-baked banana muffins in the fridge for tea.
I usually have a choice of two goodies to eat…
I decided to make brownies as well – that is easy and quick to make.
I thought “I can do that later…”

I opened my weekly report number 167 and critically read through it.
A few minor changes to make…

I thought “I’ve got time to start putting the collage together… maybe…”
I set to work.
I kid you not… I felt so thoroughly inspired as (was it I?) I edited the later batch of photos –
That usually takes much longer than creating the collage!
And then I pieced the collage together.  Was it really I?
I felt so completely, tinglingly, guided as chose photos and put it together.
I breathed more thank-you prayers during and afterwards.

I sent my report and collage off to Helen for editing…
(I read her reply on Sunday morning “Well done Judy - No changes to be made this week.”)

I made the brownies, we had John, Brenda and Vi here from 11am until nearly five pm…

Glenn and I enjoyed a quiet evening together.
Glenn slept in his recliner chair and I watched a hard-to-watch-in-one-part, made-for-TV movie.
(I’m glad for the ability to pulse through some parts - of some really worthwhile movies…)
 “Taking Back my Life – The Nancy Ziegenmeyer Story” was the movie's name.
Sobering…   She was raped in 1990. 
(How much good progress we have made as a society…
As well as back-sliding in other aspects…)  

And now – It’s a new week.
I slept a couple of hours yesterday afternoon and was awake at 4:15 this morning.
I got up, quietly came to the spare room and finished this off.

I’m grateful to have recorded this fuller account of this last week of miracles…
I shake my head while marveling again.

And now 6:02am…

Time for my daily scripture study, to the sound of our two resident Mallard ducks honking down at the fountain in the background...

And then on – into my Marvellous Monday and this New Week.
This may be our last full week here...
Will probably be.

It's been SO GOOD to be here for the last three plus years!
Serving God and our fellow men... what a privilege, what an opportunity.
What a responsibility.

And we'll carry on... serving God and our fellow men, back home again.



Monday, October 21, 2019

Beachwood Mangroves Nature Reserve

Last Saturday we visited the Beachwood  Mangroves Nature Reserve in Durban North.  
This has been on my list of "things to do" for a long time.
By chance a few weeks ago we found out where they are, and how to get there...
It is open every third Satruday of the month from 8am - 1pm.

This is the beach sign.


And these are the notice-boards at the entrance area. 






We had someone guiding us - I'm so sorry I didn't note his name...
He was knowledgeable and helpful.  
He brought along a handful of leaves which he scattered in three different locations.
The little red mangrove crabs ventured out, snatched a leaf and scuttled back to their burrows.






I didn't know there were three kinds of mangrove trees.



Here are the three in close proximity - white, black and red with their three types of root systems.



It's a whole different world in the mangrove forest!


Fiddler Crabs with one big front pincer.




Do you see the mudskipper almost centre near the water?  A red crab there too...


Red and fiddler crabs - lots and lots of them...






We also saw some whelks that had climbed a tree.


And a bright yellow orchid near the beach...



Back again from the beach...


And a circular walk along the older boardwalk.


We saw some monkeys...



These little creatures come out and forage in a star shape, returning to their burrow after each foray.


I think cracked ground is so interesting...


These are the seeds of a black mangrove.  When they drop off they lodge upright in the mud and grow roots before the next tide comes in.



I'm glad we made the effort and time to go there.  It was a few hours very well spent!

Sunday, June 23, 2019

Sunday Afternoon - June 23rd 2019 - How Frail We Really Are!


Glenn’s Mom fell last week.
She’s been in hospital the week.

We’ve visited each afternoon.
She is busy with physio right now to maybe strengthen her.
She desperately wants to go home!
That will be possible when she is more mobile…

We are looking into other resources available if she is unable to help herself.
Sigh…
Hard decisions sometimes!
As you know!

Doug and Nadia, Ethan, Daena and Cabryn have been here the week.
It’s been lovely!
And also, we’ve not been able to be with them too much –
Our priority is Glenn’s Mom!

And on we go!
Into this week!

The Temple dedication dates have been announced!
The Temple will be finished before that, we will go home.
Finishing date uncertain still at this stage.

At the moment, the plan is for us to come back for the dedication…
That may change.

And – on we go!




Sunday, June 16, 2019

Sunday Afternoon - June 16th 2019 - Home-Sick Prickle


Whew!

144 Weeks!
Sometimes I get a little “home-sick prickle” inside me…

Most days I am delighted and grateful to be here and
adding my little bit to the project.

Thank you Douglas for being at home and managing things there.
That is a great comfort to me.

Angela, your birthday on Wednesday!
I remember increasingly longing for months for you to ‘come…’
And then, there you were!
The start of a journey together we could not possibly have foreseen.
I am blessed to have you as my daughter.
I learn from you regularly, as well as learning along with you.

I appreciate the bits of news, occasional contacts and visits from all of you.
Thank you for remembering us.

Have a good week…

Love Mom/Judy

In our new “office” – one of the missionary apartments.
And – my view of the temple from my desk…