What am I Realising, Understanding this Christmas?

 

To me, Christmas is Jesus' birthday.

So... what gift can I give Him?

I like this Advent of Kindness.

And there are many similar invitations to civility, real aid and respect.

I know Christmas means different things to different people...

How can I be respectful of them, and how can I celebrate in my own meaningful way?

I can be kind to all I come in contact with - as my gift to Jesus Christ on the celebration of His birth.

And I can co-exist with others around me.  I can be interested in their celebrations. I am interested.  I have learnt from experience that I can learn much that is useful to me from everyone I come in contact with.  

What might I be forgetting?

The time might come when I need to decide to separate from some others who might be intent on choosing ways I do not want  to be a part of.  Or they might choose to separate from me and mine.

There's always choosing - every day...

Until then, I can retain my own integrity and allow others to be who they choose to be.

What are you realising and understanding this Christmas?  

What might you be forgetting?

What Are My Personal Gifts and Talents?

Yes, I am...

I know what some of my gifts and talents are...

I know I am a Daughter of God.

I am a woman of faith and commitment, wisdom and courage.

I know I love my husband and children, my grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

I know I love my friends.

I know I love my clients.

I like to do what I like to do.

I love colour, texture, shapes, composition, beauty, function, simplicity, complexity, good food, Tai Chi, the Botanic Garden or nearby place of safety and solitude.  When we were in KZN it was the beach.

I know I like being happy, civil, co-operative, comfortable, attractive, my-own-fashionable, pleasant enough, interested and interesting.

I know I love learning, listening to and watching many people, considering many opinions, drawing my own conclusions, making my own choices.

I know I like to live in pleasant and beautiful enough (to me) circumstances.  

I know I do not like being cold.

I guess others can more easily identify my gifts and talents, or what they see and consider my gifts and talents.

In what way can I truly share them?

Well, I don't think I go out of my way to share them... I live my life as best I know how and hope that something might be useful to someone else.  Sometimes people approach me, and then I'm usually happy to share - if I think it will be good for them, and for me...

I keep a blog and a journal.  In that way someone can access "me" if they want to.

What are your personal gifts and talents?  In what ways can you truly share them?

Who or What Helps Me Discern Between "Good" and "Bad"?

This is so true for me...

It's always been very useful to me to think "Where will this lead...?"  "Will it likely take me to where I want to go in my one precious life?"  These thoughts... these words... these conversations... these actions...  these relationships...  What I am reading, or watching, or listening to...

For me it's also important to read what wise men and women through the ages have said is "good" and "bad," and why.

And what wise men of today have to say.

I've looked briefly into criminology... that was very helpful.

I've talked with many people over many years.  I listen, and decided for myself.

I pray also to know "good" and "bad."

What is good at one time can be bad at another.  And the other way around...

How can I be better at figuring out "good" and "bad?"

Live in "day-tight" compartments... and just do the best I know how any given day...

Long ago I came across this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson.  A copy of it has been in my bedroom for may years.  I work at keeping with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude...

Who or what helps you discern between Good and Bad? 
 

Who or What is My Opposition?

 

And... how can I go around, under, over or through this opposition?

I don't experience much opposition any more... I guess I've learnt lots of lessons.

I suppose the greatest challenges I have now are related to my physical well-being.  

My back-ache is easier.  I continue to ponder what the answers might be and who might be able to help me.

I'm aware that I seem to be more forgetful?  I write more things down... post-it notes are very useful!  I love the neon coloured ones!

I count myself fortunate...  My days are blessed.  My nights are peaceful - most of the time.  The more careful I am with my diet and exercize, the more peacefully I and my body live with each other.  

What is your opposition?  How can you go around, over, under or through this opposition?

What Do I Hope For?

 

I have one great hope...

That my children and grandchildren - and great-grandchildren - will find a way to be civil, respectful, peaceful and co-operative with each other. and with us as their parents.  If they are able to appreciate and love each other that will be a bonus for me, and for them!

Do I need to do/be different so that I am surer of enjoying what I hope for?

That's a question I ask my self every day.  When I feel glimmerings of inspiration I implement them.

What Do I Look Forward To?

 

I look forward to visiting our daughters again!

I look forward to being with my UK children-in-law again!

I look forward to seeing my UK grandchildren and great-grandchildren, 

and meeting the two littlies I have not met yet!

I enjoy being with my loved-ones who live here!

I look forward to seeing my siblings again!

I look forward to visiting their families again!

I look forward to meeting at the chapel again!

I look forward to hearing the organ again!
I look forward to going to the Temple again!

I look forward to visiting my friends again.
 
I look forward to each day actually…
I look forward to my scripture study each morning.

I look forward to reading or listening to something every day.
I look forward to my afternoon bath each day.

I look forward to Tai Chi in the Botanic Gardens each week!
 
Do I need to change anything about looking forward to this/these?
No
 
What do you look forward to? 
And – does anything about your looking forward need to change?
 

What Future Difficulties Do I Need To Prepare For Now?

 

I prepare for my older age as best I know how.

What if I can’t see any more?
What will I need to do, change, when I can’t see any more?
What if I can’t hear any more?
What if I can’t remember my passwords any more?
What if I start repeating myself over and over?
What if I can’t administer my finances any more?
What if Glenn dies?
What if Douglas and family move out of the country?
What if I suddenly need to leave the country?
 
I have our storage inasmuch as I have been able to get it back to better preparedness.
We have security on our house that helps me feel fairly safe.
When I drive around I am aware and cautious.
When I park my car I know it might not be there when I come out.
I try to keep physically and mentally healthy so I have reserves if I should need them.
We have some financial reserves.  I try to administer them responsibly.
 
I do my best.
 
How can I increase my preparedness?
Be more conscious perhaps.  Less casual.
 
In the meantime, I’ll enjoy every, every day that I am able and considerably self-reliant.
 
What future difficulties do you need to prepare for now?
 

What Sources of Information Do I Trust?

 

 

Sigh…

I don’t really trust any one source of information.

I continually check and double check information that comes my way.

I learn a lot from the scriptures, personal prayer and inspiration, wise people, 

certain radio, TED talks, good books, the internet and other sources.

 I wonder why I don't really trust any one source of information?

But I know “It is what it is.”

 I suppose, most of all, I trust myself, that I’ll recognise my way forward, 

recognise who can help me when I need help, trust them for as long as I need immediate help.

I trust my Heavenly Father.  I know He might not “save” me from what will help me grow…

 Do I need to widen or narrow the sources I trust?

 I probably will need to widen the circle of sources I trust as I grow older.

 What sources of information do you trust?  Do you need t widen or narrow the sources you trust?

Who Receives Me With Open Arms?

 

Another good question…

 I sometimes feel received with open arms....
I think my Dad was able to receive me with open arms?  It felt like it to me.
I know some of my friends are able to… At least it feels like it to me.
 
I know I’m a Daughter of God.
I feel received by my Heavenly Father.
 
I think most I know receive me with reservations?
I know I receive most with reservations…
 
Perhaps how I think others feel about me is a reflection of the way I receive others?
Perhaps others sense my reservations and respond to me in like manner.
 
We are complex beings!
I’m grateful for all I’ve learnt about myself and others, and all I continue to learn each day.
 
Is this receiving with open arms good for me/us? 
I hope this is good for us… I know it is good for me.
I guess each must choose to receive and give as they are able to.

 

Do I give myself this being received with open arms whenever I can?
Usually.
I become aware when I “need” a dose of this or that person – listed above or not.
And yes, when it is at all possible I give myself contact with them.
Sometimes they may not know I am absorbing strength or courage from theirs.
I’m basking in their presence, their light, their wisdom, their joy, their peace and peacefulness.
I’m gratefully letting their light, capacity, composure, grace, infuse into me.
If that exposure isn’t enough I’ll find out sooner or later what my next questing step is.
 
Mostly I draw on settledness from my Heavenly Father.
Every day.
Without fail.
 
Sometimes I go to nature to be reset.
I love walking in the Botanic Gardens.
I love pottering around in my garden.
 
Who receives you with open arms?  Is this good for you and them?
 

What Can I Change So I'll Be Happier?

 

What can I change to be happier?  How can I make my every day happier?

Now these are some more interesting questions to consider!

(When I compiled these questions last year I never dreamt how thought-provoking, soul-searching  and useful I would find them...)

What comes immediately to mind is:

Paint the garden walls?

I'm getting myself ready to do that.

I need to mull over what I want to do to be sure it is what I want to do.

I also give myself time so I find the most efficient and pleasing way for me to do "it."

So far I figure if I do one set of panels a painting session, I'll enjoy doing the job.

I reckon it'll take me about a month to do them all.

And it won't get too tired per day.

And I won't get too hot - I'll choose a cooler time of the day to do my one set of panels.

And the paint brush and roller won't get too yucky to clean.

Give away more "things?"

Each week I give away a few more things.

Tidy the spare-room storeroom?

I'm pondering on that...

It has too many things in it.

The roof also has a leak so at the moment there are things on the floor to catch the drips until the leak is attended to - not quite sure how to do it yet... 

I have a tentative plan so far.  It will get done.

Find or have made/make more summer pants?

I know what I want.  I know what I need.

I can't find it in the shops I've been to.

So - I'm about to go to the fabric shop and see if I can find what I want.

I'll either make them myself or find someone to make them for me.

I haven't decided that yet.

Be more diligent with my house-keeping/home maintenance?

(It's easier for me to keep a home tidy enough and sufficiently maintained 

than to remedy neglected states.)

(And going about it steadily spreads the cost more evenly...  

I think it costs less to keep maintained than to rehabilitate...) 

Actually I found my card system for Side-tracked Home Executives (SHE) 

and am happily using them again. 

I find I'm also influenced by FLYlady so I'm adding some of those terms on my cards.  These systems work for me!  They help me keep myself a little more organized.  

I'm naturally not organized.  

Actually, I'm organized in my own way - which looks to other people like not organized... 

And also, to me "People are More Important than Things."  

So - often the people in my life, me included, are prioritized.  

So already I feel more cheerful these last few back-achey days of this back-achey year.

(What IS that all about????)

I'm generally content and peaceful.  

I flow as much as I can - let as few things bother me as I can.

So... onward, ever onward.

One day at a time.

What can you change to be happier?

And - How can you make your every day happier?

What Do I Appreciate About My Parents/Ancestors?

A little I know and share about my ancestors...

I appreciate that they did the best they could.

I know some stories about them.

I'm grateful to my parents, Kenneth and Philippa, for telling me what they knew about them. 

I'm grateful too to seldom seen uncles and aunts for sharing family stories.

My Mother's mother, Ethel, the grandmother I knew, was a stoic figure.

She lived in Cape Town.  I saw her infrequently.

She died when I was 16.

My mother's father, Richard, died when she was 7.

She and her three older sisters, Dorothy, Marjorie and Ruth, were raised by their widowed mother.

My father's father, Kenneth, died when he was 11.

His mother, Winifred, died when he was 17.

His two older sisters, Pixie and Betty, left school to support him so that he could finish school.

When my Dad was 17 the second World War broke out.

His eldest sister Pixie's either boyfriend or husband by that time, Uncle Paul, mentored him into joining the South African Navy. 

My parents married in 1943, during the war.

I was born in  Cape Town in 1945, at the end of the Second World War.

I am the eldest of their five children.

A little about my parents...

My father and mother also did the best they could...

I knew they loved me.

My Dad enjoyed a successful career in the motor industry and then moved into administration leadership in the newly established Church offices in South Africa.

I loved my Dad.

He was able to communicate with me in ways that were meaningful to me.

Three valuable things I learn from him: dutifulness, excellence and enjoying our country.

My mother was a crusading stay-at-home Mom.

She was an active member of the communities we lived in.

My Mom and I saw many things differently.

Three valuable things I learnt from her: loyalty, patriotism and the complexities of right and wrong.

And - What legacy am I building every day?

Oh my...

I don't know...

I know what I hope I am building.

I hope my husband knows I love him and I try to be a help meet for him.

I hope my children know that I love them enough to loosen the apron strings.  

I love them unconditionally - though I might not like all the decisions they make.

I hope they know I look for the good in them.

I hope they know I respect them and cheer them on.

And I respect their agency to live their lives as they choose.

I hope they know I did the best I could when I was raising them.

I hope they know I enjoy my every-day life, and when it's hard, that I find something to enjoy every day.

I hope they know that I'm still doing the best I can.

I hope my grandchildren and great-grandchildren also know these things about me.

I hope this is a legacy they find useful to them as they proceed with their lives.

And - What do you appreciate about your parents and ancestors?

What legacy are you building every day?

What Do I "See" Now That I Didn't "See" Before?

CHOICES... every day.

 I see many things now that I didn't see before.  More in myself, in others and in the world.

I see that very few things in life really matter to me.

I see that each day gone is gone forever.

I see that enjoying as much of my every-day life as I can is important to me.

I see that I want to live in such a way that I have as few regrets as possible when I die.

I see I want to be comfortable in my own skin.

I see I want to be myself, my best self, as much as I can.

I see I love and appreciate my husband as much as I can.

I see I love and appreciate each of my children as much as I can.

I see I love my grandchildren and great-grandchildren as much as I can.

I see my siblings are important to me.

I see the preciousness of my good friends.

I see more of the unveiled ugliness, brazenness and harshness of life in and around me.

I see more of the real beauty, valiance and goodness of life in and around me.

I see the importance of living my own life and allowing others to live their own lives.

I see living a good and Godly life is important to me.

I see comfort, contentment, compassion and composure are important to me.

I see faith, commitment, wisdom and courage are qualities I cultivate.

I see physical, mental, spiritual and social health is important to me.

I see I love this world in all its variety and splendour.

I see value in cultivating a vegetable garden.  I'm learning a lot.

I see that adding value each day is what I do.

I see "A nice quiet life" is what I strive for.

In what ways am I wiser/poorer for seeing?

Well, I hope I'm wiser!

I feel wiser.

I feel more content, more patient.

What do you see now that you didn't see before?

In what ways are you wiser/poorer for seeing now?

What gift do I really, truly desire?

Interesting Question...  And Singular...

Well, right now...  Perhaps the gift of my back, hip being sorted out?  

My back's been bothering me since we got home almost a year ago.

I think I unsettled it some time either on the journey home, or in settling down here again.

I've been to the kinesiologist, that didn't sort it, though my visit was comforting.

Then, during the December holidays I phoned the chiropractor I used to go to before we left.  

He was already on holiday for the Christmas/New Year three/four weeks.

I phoned a very local chiropractor and visited twice.  His massage machine

was too rough on my poor aching back.  

I decided not to go back for any more treatments.

I had to rest, flat on my back, early afternoon each day to be able to make it through the day.

I can do what I have to do... so that was not very inconvenient...

I continued to think about what to do and pray about my back.

Then stage five lock-down happened.  

My resting every day, thinking and praying about my back continued.

As lock-down eased I phoned the chiropractor I used to go to again.

He was practicing again.

I went a couple of times.  His treatments felt too soft to attend to the problem.

I stopped going again... continuing to rest every day, think, and pray about my back.

Then Glenn had some kidney stone problems.

I had to take him to the Medgate Centre for some Covid 19 tests before 

being admitted to hospital for surgical blasting of the stone.

I saw a chiropractor sign there.

After thinking some more and praying about it, I made an appointment with him.

I went there three times.

Only on the third visit, when I said this was the last time I was coming did he 

manage to attend to the breath-catching wearying aching spot in my back.

Why did I decide I wasn't going back there?

I don't know how to describe it...

In my training we discussed "potency" of the practitioner.

I felt like I was more use to the chiropractor in terms of potency than he was to me.

I felt like I was more use to him than he was to me.

I felt like I was not sufficiently satisfied with the "return on my investment" 

of submitting my body to his treatment, my time and my money.  

I'm not sure how to articulate it...

I feel like I answered more of his questions than he attended to my need/s.

Anyway... He said "You need to invest in your back-health" on my final visit.

I though that was an odd thing to say...

I thought "Maybe he is right?  Maybe I am being too hasty?"  

After postponing a further appointment twice to be surer in myself

I phoned and said I was definitely not going back.

I continued to rest every day to make it through the day, think about what to do,

and pray about my wearying, aching, breath-catching "back situation." 

Is it psychosomatic?

Is it metaphysical?

Is it physical?

What do I need to learn?

What do I need to do?

Do I need to change anything?

Is this it?

Do I need to live like this for the rest of my life?

Why am I in 'The School of Pain' again?

Who do I need to meet?

Who needs to meet me?

Where do you want me to go dear Lord?

What do you want me to do?

I think I go about my life a lot on instinct? Inspiration?  Experience? 

I live each day in contented, peaceful, cautious confidence.

Does that make sense?

I try to be aware at multi-levels of my being - physical, emotional, 

spiritual, financial, capacity, social, delight, weather, safety, comfort etc.

Anyway...

Comes Spring 2020...  And the need to dig in the garden.

My relatively unstable left hip nagged at me.

It has bothered me mostly on, and sometimes off, since I slipped 

on some wet polished steps when I was a young missionary.

"I really need to do something about this!"

So I searched on the internet for a chiropractor.

Why not...  I like to solve my problems... for a time, if not for good.

I felt impressed to contact a man at May Clinic, fairly nearby.

I've been three times so far.

This has been chiropractics like I've not experienced before.

He's sorted out my shoulder problem from falling down the stairs at the Temple.

He's correcting my posture.  

Relearning is uncomfortable as well as encouraging.

I realise I've compensated and compensated to be as comfortable as possible.

He said I might be in more pain along the way... 

Well, I have been since my third treatment last Friday.

I feel light-headed and off-balance.  Maybe twisted?

I go again tomorrow.

I'm hopeful...  I continue in hope.  Faith in every footstep.

If I have to live my life with little or no improvement, well, I can.

I understand why people use walking sticks...

If I have to, I will.

But, there you are... that's the gift (singular) I really truly desire right now...

For the rest of my life... I am truly blessed.

And what I can't change, is not mine to change, I leave in God's hands.

He can do His will.

I'll be content to live my life for Him, doing the best I can every day.

Is this a gift I need to give myself?

I'm doing the best I can to give it to myself - with others' help.

How can I be ready to receive this gift?

By being open to receiving it?

By co-operating with the chiropractor?

By being as sensible and healthy as I possibly can?

By making the investment of my time, money and willingness, my trust in the process?

By not giving up?

By visiting Amanzimtoti!

Yes!  We're due to visit there when we're able to book at Stella Maris...

Maybe I'll sleep now...

And... What do you really, truly desire?

What Do I Really Truly Believe?

I think I'm an odd one...

Here's the definition of "believe:"

"verb (used without object), 

to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof that one is right in doing so: 

Only if one believes in something can one act purposefully."

I guess... since I act purposefully I believe more than I thought I did?

This much I know - There's little that I know...

(Sometimes I listen to others who "know" this and that... and wonder if I am missing something?)  

And yet - I prefer to be me, and trust what I know.

Somehow or other I know I am a Daughter of God.

I know He knows about me.

I know that my life is worthwhile to me.

I hope it is worthwhile to Him and to others in my daily life, wherever I am.

I know I am a Disciple of Jesus the Christ.

I know I am who I am, and I am not who I am not.

I frequently know I'm glad I was not a pioneer.

And that's about it...

For all the rest - I'll "bloom where I am planted."

And I'm pretty sure I'd bloom wherever I was planted.

If I don't like where I am planted, and if I possibly can, decently, I'll transplant myself somehow or other, sooner or later.

Life's short... Sometimes shorter than we can possibly imagine!

I know that life can change in an instant, suddenly.

I knew that for sure when I sat waiting for a red robot to change and saw a car coming in the lane across the median from my left, enter the slip way for him to turn left.  He was going too fast.   He flipped and landed on the waiting cars at the red robot opposite me in the other far lane!  He's flown over two empty lanes to land on cars in the far of the other two lanes!  (That image is still so vividly clear in my mind...) 

Well... that's the moment I KNEW for sure that life could change in an instant!

And - you, my reader, might still be completely oblivious of how your life could be about to forever change!

And - you might be totally innocent!

I was on my way to the Temple in Johannesburg.

When I got there I put on the prayer roll "All those involved in the accident I just saw."

I had the message confirmed when waiting at another robot a while later.  I had the most peaceful feeling wash over me, like, flood through me.  After the robot for me changed to red and the cars in two lanes opposite right of me stopped, I edged forward to turn to my right onto the motorway before the light turned green for the cars on my left to go.  There were three lanes across from me, and three oncoming lanes.  The right turning lane for them was empty and the other two lanes were filled with stopped cars.  According to witness reports afterwards, as I turned to my right, an oncoming double cab pick-up with three unstrapped children in the back switched lanes from his far left, to his far right (right-turn-only) lane and flew straight through the intersection (red light for him) and crashed into the passenger side of my husband's three-month new car that I was driving!  My husband's car was a right-off.  Fortunately the car I was driving was a Citroen C5 otherwise I would have been very seriously injured rather than moderately injured.  

Yep... life can change in an instant. 

So - what do I really, truly believe that moves me to act purposefully every day?

I believe that life is worthwhile.

I believe that I am unique, special and irreplaceable.

I believe everyone else is too.

I believe the earth, and caring for it, is important.

I believe that being your best self is important.

I believe that family is important - though it is always less than most of us would wish.

I believe we have much to learn about ourselves and others in our family relationships.

I believe that physical, spiritual and mental health is important.

I believe that freedom is important.

I believe that right and wrong is important.

I believe that patriotism is important.

I believe that promises are important.

I believe that marriage contracts, vows and covenants are important.

I believe that children are important.

I believe that if you have a child you are responsible for that child.

I believe that parenting your own children is important - If it is is any way possible.

If it is not possible to raise your own child, I believe you have a responsibility to make decisions in the best interest of the child.

I believe that a child increasingly becomes responsible for the choices they make.

I believe that adding value of some sort, every day, is important.

I believe that being part of a good and worthwhile group is important.

I believe that working co-operatively in worthwhile causes is important.

I believe goodwill and civility are important.

I believe that learning is important.

I believe that learning from others is important.

I believe that learning from our own experience is important.

I believe that enjoying something every day is important.

I believe that considering "Where will this lead?" is important.

I believe that every choice we make is important.

I believe every choice we make may need to be accounted for sometime in the future.

I believe that choosing is important.

What I believe is well expressed in the 13th Article of Faith I profess:

I believe in being honest, true (trustworthy,) chaste, benevolent and virtuous, and in doing good to all men.  I follow (as best I can) the admonition of Paul (my favourite in the New Testament.)  I believe all (good, true and useful) things, I hope all (good, true and useful) things, I have endured many things (thankfully, not many other things I know about,)  and I hope to be able to endure all the things (that will be mine to endure in the future.)  If there is ANYTHING virtuous, lovely of good report or praiseworthy, I SEEK after THESE things. (emphasis added)

I'm very grateful for those who have gifts and talents differing to mine.  I'm very grateful for those who choose to do the "tough stuff" in life - lawyers, police, emergency personnel, defense forces, politicians.  I'm very grateful for Bishops, Stake and Area Presidents, General Authorities. 

And so I go on - one day at a time - doing my best (most of the time) in day-tight compartments.  And at the same time I really, truly believe that if/when I am prepared I shall not fear, I need not fear, whatever comes my way - knowing that I've done my best.  I can live those days ahead of me - whatever they bring - with dignity and grace being patient and honest with myself and others.

I believe I will stand before the pleasing bar of God one day and account for my one precious life.  I look forward to going and reporting on my living of my God-given life.

How did I come to believe this?

I'm not sure... I think by sifting and saving what feels good, true and useful to me from what has come my way?  This much I realise I prove all things and hold fast to that which feels good to me.  

What good, true and meaningful groups am I a part of?

I like the groups I am a part of.  If I didn't I'd change them.

This much I am sure of...

As far as I know I have one precious life to live.

I want to live it to the best of my ability.

I want to have as few regrets as possible.

I want to enjoy my every day, every week of my life.

My primary group I belong to is my family.

Other groups I've belonged to:

Past:

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

Relief Society

WeightWatchers

FAMSA (Family and Marriage Society of South Africa)

LifeLine West Rand

Randburg Horticultural Society

St Stithian's Choir

Roodepoort Garden Club

Boy Scouts of South Africa

Quadrille Quilters West Rand

A Pottery Group

An Art group

West Rand Photographical Society

Tai Chi at the Gardens

U3A - University of the Third Age 

Present:

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

Relief Society

WeighLess

Tai Chi at the Gardens

Now with the internet I belong to several facebook groups that bring me information - like:

Meridian Magazine

LDS Mental Health Support Group

I Love My Family

Time Out For Women

Come Unto Christ

TED

Livingseeds Veggie Gardeners

Tai Chi Connection

South African Depression and Anxiety Group

Happy Latter-day Saints

The FLYLady

BBC Earth

I Am LDS

SA People - For South Africans in South Africa and ex-pats

South Africa The Good News

Do I need to change anything?  

When I feel the need to change anything I will.  I do.

What and Who Cheers Me?

My family

My covenants

Nature – skies, earth, water, plants, birds

Some music

Some art

Some people

Colours

Some books

Some phone calls

My home

My car

Comfortable and attractive (to me) clothes

Healthy food

Walking

Tai Chi

My afternoon bath

Sociality of Saints

Some TV

Some facebook

Being warm enough when it is cold

Being me

Being quiet

Many things cheer me!

How can I cheer someone around me?

I hope I cheer others by being my best self.

By listening to them?

By noticing them?

By noticing what is good, true and worthwhile about them?

What Patterns In My Life Are Good Ones?

 

 

Arising early

Eating healthily

Tai Chi

Weight Watching

Daily scripture study, prayer, weekly attending church, Temple worship

Reading good books

Watching TED talks, BYUtv

Housework

Afternoon bath

Gardening

Disciplined spending

Journal

Dutifulness

Loyalty

Optimism

Contentment - most of the time

 

 What Do I Need To Change?

Communicating with my children and siblings – do better

Tidying and sorting – tossing, sharing, selling, donating

Family history - do better

Posture - prevention is better than cure... and later is better than never.

What patterns in your life are good ones?  What do you need to change?

Who Or What Do I Need To Remember To Remember?

The miracle of growth in Spring

That there are seasons…

That there are consequences for every action and non-action

That “whatever fire I feed will keep burning”

What decisions I have made for myself and how I want to live my life

That there are “truths” and “truths” and sometimes neither of us can prove our “truths”

That I have a “Bill of Human Rights” and so does everyone else

That I have very much to be grateful for – every day

That I am truly fortunate

That “privilege” carries responsibilities

That I am me… and that I’m unique, special and irreplaceable

That there’s no one else in the world like me, never has been, never will be

That I largely get to choose my life and what I’ll be

That I’m a Daughter of God and as such I “do” certain things, and I “don’t do” certain things

That I’m “Just Visiting This Planet”

 

Monthly and annual expenses

Birthdays and anniversaries

Drink my water! Every day!

Makeup and hair daily

Earrings

Be sure I have a mask with me when I go out

Tend my seedlings and growing vegetables

Tend my garden

 

Those I love

Those I’m in covenant with

Ministering

Dentist and homeopath regularly

How can I make this happen?

I have various ways.  Post-it notes, alarms on my phone, calendar, coloured pegs, and a whole host more.  I'm very glad to live these days with so many options to choose from!

Who or what do you need to remember to remember?              

How Can I Be More/Less Patient With Myself And Others?

 

Yeah… sometimes I am too patient.  I’m getting better…

Sometimes I’m not patient enough… 

I’m getting better at walking away, or avoiding/choosing my time with situations that try my patience –

like standing in queues… or driving in rush-hour traffic.

I’ve made lots of progress in the patience department.

Perhaps it’s in the “Accepting what I cannot change” department?

 

Just a thought:  What is patience?

Dictionary definition:  ability to remain calm and not become annoyed. 

Eg - when waiting for a long time, or when dealing with problems, or difficult people.

 

Yeah… I’m much better at it than I used to be able to be.

 

And – how can I be less patient with myself and others when I need to be?

By being aware… and thinking… and using what skill and experience I have.

And gaining more skill and experience when I’m able to…

And doing better when I know better…

And - Who/What needs to flow out of my life?

First thought is facebook adverts...  and facebook "suggested for you" items.

Very annoying...  I wish they had the category for why advert is hidden "annoying."  Or "presumptuous." Or "Unasked for."  I would click those every time.  On principle I don't watch adverts - nor do I watch any "suggested for you" items.

All those that don't or can't appreciate me will eventually flow out of my life.  And, all that I don't and can't appreciate will also flow out of my life.

My aching back needs to flow out of my life.  Actually, thankfully, it's much more comfortable than it was at the beginning of the year.

Actually, I "sift and save" daily.  And I can do better...  I visited a friend who has just lost her husband.  She is sorting out knowing that she'll be moving at the end of the month.  I renew my commitment to regularly give away and share with whoever needs what I no longer do.

 

How can you be more/less patient with yourself and others? 

How Do I Handle Being Offended?

 

How can I handle it better when I feel offended?  Who/what can help me?  

I’m very seldom offended…

When we purchased our new dishwasher the salesman (coloured) 

referred a couple of times about “white” people… that sounded 

insolent? mocking? provocative? to me.  I was slightly unsettled.

Usually I can easily say 

“You know what… you are the one with the problem…” 

and feel patience and compassion for them.

I hope I can recognize when I am the one with the problem… 

and I hope I can think clearly and decided what I’m going to do about it – 

if I want to do something about it.

How do you handle being offended?

How can you handle it better?

Who or what can help you?